Learn to let him/her go...

Many will go through these phrases of words in life “let it go…!” Not everybody is destined to get everything you want. Not every person who came in your life is destined to stay forever. Not every person you love should reciprocate it back. You can be possessive with them, can’t live the rest of the life without them, selfish enough not to leave them – but you should learn to respect that person’s feelings and let that person go and at times forgive that person for the traces they leave in your life.

Sometimes it is important for us to let go of people, even if you still want them to be the best part of your life. Since, you must realize the fact that they were the first one to let you go, from their life. And then you have to move on. At one part of time, what hurts you will hurt less and you will find reasons to understand why it is so important to let the important person in your life go.

Eventually, you’ll learn that not everybody you meet will stay forever. Each have their own chapter in your life – once their chapter started much end at one point of life. Some of their characters are harder to replace, some may not be replaced – but the important thing is you must learn to accept the reason and let them go. In the beginning it will hurt. It is the kind of hurt that your life will keep you awake even at 3am and make you cry. It will hurt like you left all alone in the middle of a chaos with memories of them getting harder and all your friends, families, colleagues left you without any care.

You’ll start to doubt yourself, why they left you and you’ll ask question on all the memories you had with them. Everything happens only when you’re not ready to let them go (who already left in your life) and waiting for the impossible to happen. You’ll think of all the promises made by them was broken – dreams built were destroyed. Hope always gives the strength to hold on to your goal, but having hope on goal which is yet destroyed will make you weak all of a sudden. They follow you everywhere – memories; make you strong and weak. The harder you hold on to it the weaker you’ll become. When you let the hardest part of it go, you’ll understand the real reason of letting them go.

It is not expected that, someone you love will love you back as the way you love will not determine the way that person loves you back. You can have multiple connections with the person but that doesn’t mean that you should expect the same with love. This applies to both friendships and relationships.

Loving someone unconditionally without expecting anything in return will make you stronger by heart – able to give you both hope and reason to let them go. It hurts only when you expect the same love from them in return. It is not a measure that you should expect the same amount of love and care – it is one which is to be given unconditionally.

You can try hard to make them the best chapter of your book, but should realize that they have their own story line to deal with. However, the best kind of love, something that I found the purest, is unexpected love. Because you’re not looking for something, you’re not looking for healing. Sometimes, through the people, that we meet we find healing. And the world doesn’t seem that bitter after all.

You may look weak with lots of hurts and hard memories to carry from your past. But it’ll give you enough strength to let it all go in the upcoming part of your life.

“Future will be unexpected only when you let your past go in the present life”