Being Women - I Am Proud Of My Battle Scars!!!

They say it’s a very common and easy procedure to bring a baby to this world. But weirdly nothing has been done to normalize the conversation about this topic. 

The first question to a newbie’s Mom - “Normal or Caesarean “ - does it even matter? 

Baby is Healthy, Mom is safe and sound, what more people want? 

The common misconceptions about C-section—that it’s “the easy way out” or sometimes a vanity-driven choice—and a dip in self-esteem comes along for a Mom who chose this way. Women face a physical and mental recovery period that takes months or even years. 

While going into my first pregnancy I felt like, ‘I tried and tried, I laboured for hours, Unfortunately, my baby pooped inside and risk of getting it stuck in his pipe way too much arose. At that point, I was like ‘alright, just go ahead and cut. I want my baby. I wasn’t prepared for the aftermath at all. 

The pain, the anxiety for not being able to feed my child properly, feeling helpless in sitting, wasn’t able to go to Washrooms and 72 hrs of non-stop bleeding and wearing pads every single minute - who says it’s an easy option? 

Then comes a whole list of Dos & Dont’s with this episode. We sacrifice our eating habits, we can’t workouts, for 40 days not going out etc etc. 

It took me a long time to adjust my body with this, along with a new arrival on your family. 

Even after 6 years. I couldn’t opt for normal because the risk of torn stitches was there in my second pregnancy, so again I had to opt for Caesarean. 

This time I was less worried, less anxious and were ready for the battle and now I am proud of my Scars, "my battle Scars" as it reminds me that I won and my Kids are doing superbly good and I am the best for them. 

So no matter Normal or Caesarean, a Mother always be a Mother. The Exit route doesn’t decide our journey and destination, it’s how we embrace it. 

So next time don't ask Normal or Caesarean. Ask about the well being of the mother who took Injection and pain medication in her Spine and bore the pain of Scar on her body. 

Be with her in her hard times and give her emotional support which she needs the most, not the judgment of choosing an easy option.