Truth be told!

It was a pleasant Sunday afternoon. Sitting by the window in a small cafe, i sipped my coffee while looking at people walk by. Soft music played in the background.

Suddenly i heard a girl sitting on the next table shriek, "Why is truth so difficult to tell."

Her words ignited something in me, i went in a trance of thoughts.

Is truth really that hard to say? 

why is it so hard? 

As thoughts started to flow i went deeper into it. 

What is truth? 

Truth can be defined as what is true or the facts of any situation. 

It is supposed to be simple and can be easily shared. we have to say the thing as it is. No stories to think of and no preparation of what to say. 

Well thats what i had assumed till now.

But do we actually follow it? Are we true to ourselves and others? 

More often than we realize we frame our words based on what the other person would like to hear rather than say what we actually feel. 

Lying in today's world has become like a normal routine. To be honest with yourself and others has become difficult. 

As i went deeper and deeper i discovered more and more questions which were unanswered till now. 

Why is it difficult to say the truth?

We asssume that when we say our true feelings the other person may react in some way or may misunderstand us. Therefore we say things which we think is acceptable by the other person. Being judgmental and prejudice is a relation killer.

This maybe happens due to our inner fears and insecurities. 

We all crave for attention and want to be loved. We forget that the first love is self love. Only when you learn to love yourself, be true to yourself and accept your feelings. Others will know the true you and love you for who you are. 

 

Often there is a misconception that we lie to protect others feelings and interests. 

However, lying is always self serving. we think we lie to protect the feelings of others but actually it is to protect ourselves from pain and repercussions. 

It is a lie that we tell ourselves that you are doing something for others, to make ourselves feel better. 

What can we do ?

To be able to tell the truth we first need to be honest with ourselves. We need to address our feelings about it. 

In the world of filters and masks we have forgotten to be ourselves truly. 

Everything is either told in sarcasm or is sugar coated. 

We have lost touch of ourselves. We do not allow ourselves to dwell on our feelings and put on a mask and pretend all is okay.

Life has become a fast paced race but it seems we are competing against ourselves. 

We are continuously chasing something which in the end we might not want actually. We have forgotten our self in an aim to achieve other things. 

Once we know our worth and once we are true to ourselves, our fears reduce. We are able to speak the truth. Truth may hurt temporarily but its always better than living with long term consequences of lying. 

So next time you are asked something, honestly give you opinions and let out your true feelings. Sometimes you maybe surprised but the way the person takes it and accepts it. 

It helps in strengthening the bond.

Differences of opinion are bound to occur in every relation. The key is to communicate our true feelings with each other and understand each other better. 

It helps us to gain new perspective about each other.

Preoccupied in my thoughts i spilled coffee on the table. It brought me out of my delusion and i became aware of my surroundings.

The little sentence by the girl awoke something in me and now i was better aware of my feelings and myself. I knew exactly what I was going to do next. 

Be honest and true to myself and others.