Fight Within

I have been married for twenty years and have two children. Like all other couples, we often quarrel with each other on petty things. Our fight is a silent fight. We stop talking to each other and most of the time it takes one to two days. It is just a clash of egos which has its peak and we are normal in one or two days.

Two years back I had an old friend's meeting in Delhi and we were planning to go there. I was very excited about the meeting as I had to meet all my friends after a long long time.

Just about a week before the meeting my wife told me that on the day of this meeting our son had an important exam and we have to cancel the program. I was very upset as I had made all the preparations for that program. I asked her if I can go alone. She said nothing. She tried to convince me that the exam was very important but my ego did not let me listen and the silent fight was on.

It was a very usual fight to start with but when it continued for a week it became a situation to worry about. We both were anxious and wanted to end the situation and tried to do little things but it did not help. I thought the ego this time has become big.

One day when we were sitting in the room alone, I kept my head in her lap and took her hands in mine. It was as if she was waiting for this, she hugged me immediately and then burst into tears. That night we talked to each other for about two hours and very much enjoyed it as it came after one week of silence.

So a single act of love and understanding can do wonders in your relationship and can shatter the biggest of egos, the sole culprit for the fight.

I can't say it will not be repeated but what I have learned from this incident is that we are fighting within ourselves with our ego and the solution to end this fight is only loved.