Why Would You Catfish someone?

Why Would You Catfish someone?

I remember talking to my friend about dating, actually, we were trading war stories and laughing our ass's off.
Our morning ritual is to start the day off in laughter and a lot of the time it's about our latest dating fiasco or my latest dating fiasco. 

Yes, we had them all:
Mr. Beat me with a spoon (Delete!) 
Mr.Whips and chains (Delete!) 
Mr. Send you a picture of my ass. (?? Wtf? Delete, Delete!!) 
Mr.Racist (Delete!) 
Mr. Racist of his own kind (Delete!)
And our all-time dirtbag....drum roll please....
Mr.Con Artist 
(Kicked to the curb, literally and then permanently deleted!!)

Oh yes, we have dated some winners, without the chicken dinners! 

Well, in between all these wonderful dates, I have also been catfished. For those of you who have been living under a rock and don't know what that means, ask your teenagers! No, seriously there is a show on MTV called Catfished. It's about people who go to an online dating site, make a bio, and then steal someone else's photos. Then they contact you pretending to be that person.

Our question is why? Do you not have a life? Okay, dumb question, obviously not because they are stealing someone else's life. But again, the real question is why? Why would you lead another person on like that? What is the benefit? Eventually, they are going to want to meet you and then what? Most of the time they just string you along, never meeting and some people will keep this up for years never wanting to meet.

The first time I didn't know about any of this. I was out of the dating scene for 25 years, so I got catfished.
This guy and I texted and emailed back and forth. He told me all about his so-called life and I told him about my real life. This went on for a few weeks, then I wanted to meet and we had made plans to meet, when he suddenly deleted his profile and then his number was gone. I was left thinking wtf just happened?

When the next catfish came along I was a little wiser and when I asked what church he went to there was a pause for a few minutes and then he proceeded to give me the full address. I don't know about you but I've been going to my church for 12 years. I couldn't tell you the full address if my life depended on it. I can tell you how to get there but not the full address.

Then he says he went to college in Miami. I ask which one, because there are a lot there. He says Miami, yeah, I got that but which college? No answer. Remember when I taught you about red flags? Well, this is one of them. So run Forrest run because these are them!

Now I can spot catfish miles away quicker than dead fish, and then I am quick to delete your stupid ass.
But our question still is why? Why play with someone else's emotions? Do they get a thrill? Is it for fun? 
I understand that for the con artist, it's a way of life to get money but for the others, my question is why?

Look I always look at the bright side, and okay I was taken in not once but twice. And if you add in Mr. Actual Con Artist then 3 times.
(I am a little slow, hello! Read my blogs and you would know this!) For me, this is material for my blog and for more fuel to add to our morning laughter sessions! We will all get a little wiser and a little more cautious but hopefully with an open heart because that is who we are. Look, we know we are some incredible, smart, funny, beautiful women, so it's their loss! NEXT!!

So today my friends, see the red flags, know your self-worth, then run like hell, laughing all the way to tell your girlfriend!!
“Be the change you want to see”
@TreadmillTreats