It's All About Me

It's All About Me

I shouldn't be surprised that so many people are all about themselves lately. Anymore, It's all about me world. Hey look at me, like me, let's show all God gave me in public. Anything for likes or followers. 
Think of Ye's puppet of an ex-wife, naked at the Grammys or so many others selling their woo ha for $10.00 on their only fans page. 

I shouldn't really be surprised about what's going on in the world. 
Because we have a guy who's running the country who is clearly the biggest narcissist we have ever seen. Then we have the joker's sidekick, Elon, yet another narcissist. 
So then why are we surprised? 

I have definitely had my fair share of narcissists in my life, starting with my ex husband and then a string of ex-boyfriends after that. You would think I could see them coming, yet sometimes you don't see it because you're too close to the situation. Even though everyone around you can clearly see it and tries to tell you over and over. You're blinded because you are trying to see the best in that person. Sometimes all you need is some distance to see clearly. 

A narcissist is someone that no one wants around. You know the friend you have that others would ask, “Is so and so going to be at your party?” And then when they found out they were coming would say “Oh I'm not coming then”

If people say to you that your friend is no longer welcome to come with you to events or to their homes, or on your vacations, then trust me they know that these people are narcissists. 
So how do you tell that they are narcissists?

They are narcissists, If you go out with them and they are always too busy taking pictures or videos of themselves all night to even talk to you. 

They are narcissists if they always have to be the center of attention, loud and are always like, look at me at every single place you go.
 
They are narcissists, when you tell them how they are making you feel, and they would tell you that's the way they were, so deal with it. 

They are narcissists when they are inconsiderate of your feelings. Doing things like loudly speaking on the phone when you're sleeping or doing other inconsiderate things that you had already spoken to them about, yet they couldn't care less and continued to act like you never said anything. 

Listen up people, this is typical narcissistic behavior. It's all about them, too bad what everyone else wants, this is them, take it or leave it. They are not going to change to accommodate you or your feelings. They will never admit when they are wrong or they will turn it on you like it's your fault. God forbid they will ever take ownership for their behavior.

Now, I'm not talking about self love here, I think we should all have self love, knowing your worth and being able to express it, I am all about that. Loving yourself is wonderful but this is not self love, this is being in love with yourself. Big,big difference. It's always about them, the world has to revolve around them and if it doesn't then there is something wrong with you.

But here's the thing, the more time that you step back from this person the more you realize all the things that you allowed to continue to happen for years. Things that everyone but you saw. And you think why did you let it go on for so long? For me, I always try to see the best in people. I weigh the good and the bad and think if the good outweighs the bad. So yes, I stay way longer than I should. But not anymore. I don't know how much time I have here and I refuse to put up with selfish people anymore. 

I am good being alone, I am good with the core group of friends I have. I have no time for drama, no time for selfish, narcissist people anymore. If you're not bringing peace and joy into my life by being a kind and good person, bye! I'm done with you. 
I am seeing things quicker and quicker now.

So today my friends remember, the narcissist is all about themselves but for your peace, you need to be about yourself. That doesn't make you like them, this is for your mental health. It is so you can see them for who they really are and know that your feelings are important and valid. A relationship is two sided and it can't always be about them. 
When you realize that it makes it that much easier to walk away.
“Be the change you want to see”
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