Sthala-Kaala-Paatram

As a mother caught in the delicate dance of family dynamics, I often witnessed moments that unveiled the tender balance between guidance and freedom. My husband, an amiable and loving father, held a deep wisdom in his words, which resonated with our son and me as he shared his insights with our son on that eventful evening.

My husband, an embodiment of professionalism, engaged in a discussion with a colleague when our son, overflowing with his juvenile excitement, sought his attention. "Behave yourself, Shyam," my husband scolded gently, attempting to maintain the conversation with his colleague while balancing his role as a guiding parent.

Later that evening, my husband took Shyam under his wing, offering him a valuable life lesson through the concept of 'Sthala-Kaala-Paatram.' With patience and care, he explained the intricate nuances of behaviour and expression, using metaphors that painted a vivid picture for our young son.

"I am your father, Shyam," he said with a warmth that never left his tone. "In our close circle, you have the freedom to be yourself. But when I am with my colleagues, I play a different role. You see, that's the 'Sthalam’ (place) concept. It's about understanding the different environments and adapting accordingly."

Continuing with a compassionate gaze, he delved into another aspect, "Consider the importance of 'Kaalam’ (time). Notice how I'm a relaxed and fun dad at home or on holiday? During those times, I embrace your playful antics. However, things change after a long day's work or when we're out shopping. You should adjust your behaviour accordingly, my dear."

"Remember 'Paatram’ (individual)”, he added gently. "Your tone and communication differ with friends, teachers, parents, sister, and others. It's important to adapt your approach to suit the situation."

As I observed the interaction between father and son, I couldn't help but admire the gentle wisdom embedded in my husband's guidance. It was a lesson not just for Shyam but for all of us, a reminder of the importance of understanding context, adapting to diverse environments, and the art of nuanced communication.