Retrospection

Hello readers..! Hope everyone is enjoying reading something which they needed, something they chose and something they randomly clicked. But whatever it might be, you are reading something either interested or bored. Whatever the reason might be the thing you are reading is striking your mind and your brain thinks of that, tries to imagine and some feel your heart as well. But I have a doubt that if your heart feels then is the brain able to generate the correct response or some instinct one that makes you think over and over once it is performed. I might be not clear with my thoughts I guess. Let me tell you with as much clarity as I can.

If you are irritated and hurt many times for the same issue or some series of issues from a limited period of time and for everything there would be a threshold limit, for some people, it could be like 1 week and other it could be like 1 hour, whatever the timeframe might be there would definitely be a threshold to bare anything they are going through (this is merely my opinion, don't take it too extreme that there wouldn't be threshold and who am I to decide a timeframe for one's feelings). So once after the limit has crossed automatically the heart pumps blood too fast that brain would be unable to understand what it is making us speak. We generally wait for few secs and instinctively say a word which we are not supposed to say it. We actually mean something but the word we say doesn't fit appropriately to our feelings. As it is a word we have bluntly spoken we can't ever take it back. Later after some time, we feel bad for what we have spoken and will try to explain or convince the other person whom we have said it that what we actually wanted to convey but we succeed sometimes, at times fail as well. Whatever the outcome is we can't help it.

And whatever our feelings are, how hurt we are doesn't actually matter for them, why we have told that, what made us speak in that way, is that what they actually mean, is this the way they always speak, is there any fault from us so that they said these to us... are the actual questions the person who had made us speak has to think of. But they don't (very few people actually thinks some of these questions... hats off to those), they stick on the single thing that we had made a mistake, we have to change ourselves, we need to retrospect what we have told and realise that we had actually made mistake by uttering those against them. I really don't understand why people are so selfish that the mistakes they do aren't visible at all but are always pointing out others to retrospect the mistakes they do. 

In this scenario, both of them have did mistakes but the second one has done that as a reaction of the first one. Sometimes we can't control our feelings which is absolutely true, as a living being controlling feelings also have some threshold. Once it exceeds the same emotion can't be carried anymore, our brain tries to send it out to make us feel fresh, so they need to remove the baggage as much as they can so that they can carry the same emotion little freshly. 

I think in the scenario I have narrated, most of you may have connected with. Because this can be experienced with everyone at any point of time as far as they come across right now. The emotion can be little high or little low, it is an emotion and a heartfelt feeling.

I also wanted to know that the persons whose actions made the others react, who needs to retrospect first and will they actually do, though they retrospect and talk to other will they end up clearing the differences or will they blame one another for the past mistakes..? Will their relation be the same as before or will there be a gap like not expressing themselves with full freedom such that they are no more judging each other? There might or might not be gaps, that actually shouldn't matter what matters is that your feelings, emotions and why and how to hurt you are for that issue which made you so stressed and irritated has cleared finally. Try to be normal though it seems little abnormal initially, you get habituated to it since as a human you forgets things.

But I suggest everyone who's reading that if the person had said something by choice or by instinct try not to ask the person to retrospect, instead, you try it for yourself that is the person actually meant what he/she told, what is their view of what they have told, why did they say that is it because of me or is the state of the person not good etc... then if you get the answers for them just go to the person (it's a kinda standing in other's shoes so that you can understand what they feel), tell them what you have felt and the answers you got, also ask him: if he is feeling sorry for what he told. If he's feeling sorry then you need not explain to him that what he said is wrong, if he doesn't feel so and if you feel he is wrong just explain your point of view. Once you exchange each other's point of view there come some clear thoughts that make you think even deeper and try to change the ways that used to be. Though there might be disturbances at the beginning, the relation would not be at stake. It actually thickens the bond and makes you understand better about others which help you grow into a better person.

Happy reading guys. Though this might make you think or not, just give it a try. If it actually helps you I would be happier. Cheers...!