New Year's Resolutions

Every year, we all make New Year's resolutions. We vow to go to the gym more, eat right, make more money, and do the things we should be doing already but aren't.

Us gym rats know that the gym is packed the first month of the year, but by the last week in January, not so much. By the second week in February, it's just us die hearts that are in there again.

So why do we do that to ourselves? Why do we make these resolutions only to break them and then make ourselves feel bad?

Five years ago, I decided I wasn't going to make any more resolutions. I was going to make life resolutions to do something to change who I was as a person inside.

2014 was: Let go and let God

This meant I couldn't control everything. I couldn't figure out all of my problems, so if I wanted to change my life, I had to let go of control and give it to God. See, God kept giving me messages, but I thought I knew better.

All year long, God has been knocking. he's been telling you to follow him, but you have done what you wanted to do, and where did it get you? Nowhere, and that's why this was a game-changer for me.

2015 was: Pray and let God worry

I remember that while I was getting divorced, I was stressing so much that I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and my hair was falling out. I even thought I was having a heart attack at one point. I couldn't go on believing in God and keep stressing; it didn't make sense. Did I believe it or not? Do I have faith or not? So, I chose to pray and let God worry, and that was the best decision I ever made.

2016 was: Be present in my purpose

I know I am here for a purpose. I know God gave me this gift of writing to be able to touch others with my words. I chose to be present for that purpose and know that this is where I am supposed to be.

My bible verse has always been: Romans 8.28 

"God causes everything to happen for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them." I have been present in this verse and in my life, ever since.

2017 was: Be real to yourself

For me, it's listening to that voice inside yourself. It's feeling what makes you happy, trusting what God is telling you, what is real. We often poo poo things in our minds; we know deep down what the message is, but we don't want to listen.

I heard the messages, and I have acted quickly on them as I now trust God and my intuition. This was a hard one for me, and sometimes I reverted into my old ways, but since this resolution, I have been quicker to learn my lessons and move on.

2018: Knowing your self-worth.

This was also a hard one for me, as I've lost my self-worth a long time ago and hadn't gotten it back. I used to let men use me; I'd run after men who aren't worth my time. I've made excuses for the bad behaviour of people and given way too many chances to people who've hurt me.

I had to practice what I preach, the things I write about to my readers. I needed to show others how to treat me, with love and respect, and if not, then you're outta here.

God put a good man into my life to show me how I needed to be treated. And even though we are no longer together, I learned the lesson, and I now know my self-worth, and it's a wonderful feeling.

2019: To realize that I am a soldier.

That God only gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers, and that's me. Whether I want it or not, this is who he called me to be. This is so I can share my testimony with others. I must rise up and be who he called me to be.

2020 To be happy.

It doesn't matter what people say, whether they think it's right or wrong; this is your life. You can be dead tomorrow, and I know this as I lost many loved ones suddenly, and recently, I know how short life can truly be. You need to do what makes you happy now, don't try to live your life pleasing others, because most times they will never be happy as they are not happy with themselves. 

2021 Be in peace

Even though it was a rough year, surgery, no money, the pandemic, and problems with my children, I felt peace. I wasn't worried; I knew God had me, and that was a peace that is priceless.

And for 2022, my life resolution is 

Live in the moment 

These last two years taught us that we never know what will happen. You can be here today, gone tomorrow… We just don't know, and I refuse to miss out on a minute of it.

I want to be present and savour each and every moment with those I love.

See, you cannot change, you cannot get all of this if you still will not let go if you still do not have faith...it's all on you. Can you get out of your own way to make things happen?

Once we let go of these things, once we let go of control, once we learn faith and we pray and let God worry, things will change. Once we are present in our purpose, once we are real with ourselves, once we own who we are called to be, once we are happy with ourselves and our life, once we are present in our lives then everything we ever wanted, everything we ever lost, everything that was stolen from us, will be returned in abundance.

So today my friends, I tell you that this is your year, you are the only one that can change things in your life. If you truly want them to change, you have to do the work and believe me; sometimes, it's not easy.

You don't want to give up control; how can you not worry? How can I believe or have faith when crap keeps hitting the fan all around me? It is all up to you. I am no different from you...if I can do it, then you can, too. Change your life today...

Don't make New Year's resolutions, make life resolutions...start today...