I brushed her teeth, bathed her, changed her clothes, combed her hair, fed her breakfast, and set her favourite music. Then, came children, hubby, household chores. It was soon lunchtime. Ensuring she had a balanced diet on time, I derived pleasure feeding her with my own hands. A stroll in the garden in her wheelchair, after dinner it was medicines and she was carefully tucked into her bed. While I bid goodnight, my mother-in-law would unfailingly, kiss my palm to express gratitude. Watching this regular phenomenon my little daughter questioned me one day, "Mummy, do I have to do the same to you after I grow up?" I was taken aback and then became emotional. I drew her close and hugged her. She was so tiny, innocent, and immature before I could think of an answer she ran out to play.
In solitude, I pondered..........."God forbid, may I not see the day when I have to depend on someone." But, my dearest doll, if you could do this for your mother-in-law, if you could see ME in HER, and render your loving services carefully and unselfishly, I shall deem I have left no stone unturned in grooming you.
Yes, we are often ready to do our all for our mothers but when it comes to our mothers-in-law, our attitude, approach, thinking, everything changes. Is it because she has two extra words in the relationship? Can't we remove those two words and treat her at par with our own mother? We often hear people say if we want to see a change we need to be the change !! Our treatment to her will determine her behavior towards us. If we are successful in erasing the two letters, "in-law", she too will follow suit. Thus, unnecessary, meaningless, minor bickerings can be swept under the carpet and the home can be transformed into a haven, hence providing relief to the son who is generally sandwiched between the mom and the mistress.
One of the best qualities of a true relationship is to understand and to be understood.