Freedom In True Sense

It’s that time of the year when the Board Examination Results are out. Board examinations in themselves are a stressful time for the students with a burden of expectations from parents and teachers. many students are facing another round of stress and trauma and this time it’s around the RESULTS. 

According to experts, over 80 per cent of the students report significant anxiety, stress and depression. With growing competition and high expectations, many students are unable to cope with the anxiety and stress. 

The general hype created by the media around high Achievers often works against the mindset of those who haven’t been able to perform well in their examinations. Family reactions like criticism, insult, punishment, and comparison often push the child toward depression 

Parents need to raise their kids in a way that they feel they have a strong sense of self and belonging and at the same time instil in them through unconditional love, trust and respect the confidence to truly spread their wings and fly.

The humongous responsibility of raising a child is not always a bed of roses. It comes with a huge lot of pressure and stress. Parents may face different types of problems that can affect how they manage their families, especially in how they inculcate the right values in their children.

Many times you will find yourself in situations where you are Not being able to deal with your children who refuse to take instructions or Not being able to connect with or communicate effectively with your child. I feel that is the most overwhelming feeling that one goes through as a parent. In such cases, I believe that parents need to go through counselling themselves so that they are able to handle such situations in a better and more efficient manner. whether we admit it or not, the time always comes when, no matter how hard we try, we do not know how to proceed. Admission of inadequacy is difficult, but for us to become better parents, we must recognize that some things are just out of our control.

As humans, we are bound to commit mistakes. And as humans, we can also be blind to our own actions and behaviours. Who knows, when all this time you are under the assumption that your child is in the wrong, when in fact, you are the person responsible for your child’s behaviour? Listen to what your child has to say. Ensure that no matter what happens, you will always be there for him or her.

To give our children wings means to truly give them the freedom to fly the nest. To trust and love them completely. To give them our blessings to choose the path they will walk. To give them wings without conditions. This is a gift from us to them. Often it is not easy, letting go never is.

No family is without problems, arguments, and stress. Key aspects when retaining harmony in your family are the way you parent your children, manage your personal issues, and handle conflict. Being a parent can be the most rewarding experience you go through, but can also be the most taxing. Sometimes your child is the source of stress and issues for you, especially when dealing with teenagers because they can change drastically over a relatively short period of time.

Give your child wings and you give them your confidence–your blessing. You say to them in your actions. let them take opportunities to stretch, to do things outside their comfort zone

Be happy for them as they go! Remember that as painful as it is, it is at the core of what you really want–to know that one day when you are gone they will have the faith, joy, and strength to fly as high and far as God allows.