Do You Care? Or.....?

An interesting insight ...

* I was in consultation with a middle-age couple. They started fighting right in front of me.

The upset husband said- See doc....I 'care' so much for her & this is what I get in return..

To which the fuming wife replied- He doesn't care...he just 'controls'...!

The *care* from one person was perceived as *control* by another! It made me think...what is the care and what is control?? How to identify them?? Soon I received the answer. I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinary issue... Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears... After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other... My daughter hugged me and said-Papa ,you know why you got upset? You were not upset because I did wrong..but u were upset because I didnt follow your instructions....there is a big difference..! I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern. .. I received my answer too...

I was trying to control her under the disguise of care...that caused the conflict... If I really 'care' from someone, I will not get upset or angry with that person...

I will keep searching for different ways to help him. If I am struggling in any relationship... I need to closely observe if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care...because Care is an expression of love while control is an expression of ego...

Control cuts...Care connects ...

Control hurts...Care heals...

Keep caring for people but don't control them ... because Often people are not wrong...they are just 'different'... Keep caring...