'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

To all the girls who like to send guys into different zones,

Hey! Just wait before you curse me and lash out with your feminist attacks!

Easy, girls! Just read on... I won't hurt you, promise!

To start off with, this is from a guy, because as per the standard stereotypes, more often than not, it's a guy that approaches a girl, because otherwise, she's not a "girly-enough" girl!

(Two minutes of silence for those who didn't get the sarcasm.)

So, whichever gender you might belong to, it's meant for you if you're either the victim or the convict of the "non-lover"-zoning crime, as seen from the eyes of a boy.

Yes, we guys are insensible about love. Nature's rule - girls mature faster.

Yes, we get way too excited and pumped up when we love a girl.

Yes, we talk weird and can get uncomfortable af while confessing our feelings for you.

But all that we look for is a specific answer from your end, emphasise 'specific'.

We don't want word plays like "I love you, but as a friend" or "I have never thought about you that way."

If you haven't thought, do it now, once I've confessed to you, and give a discrete value of your answer. Don't make us hang in continuous curves. Take all the time you need for that, but come back and face the moment of truth.

I'm sure those who've gone through this would agree, regardless of their gender, that the amount of courage it takes for a person to just come up and say that he/ she has feelings for you, is unimaginable. You can never know what one goes through until you've been that 'one'.

So you got to be more sensible with your approach, at least out of respect for the guy's courage. Put it straight to his face - a Yes or a No - and end the matter crisp and clear.

You don't need to sugarcoat your "No" in case you're 'concerned' about how the guy will react to rejection.

If he is a man, he will accept your "No" as a "No" ... You don't need to mess up the already awkward situation by hanging in between with an indecisive response.

So just go ahead and make your choices, and do it wisely because heartbreak is after all a heartbreak, regardless of whether you've been in relation for just 1 day or 1 decade. Don't they deserve a decent treatment for a decent confession, for after all Alfred Lord Tennyson truthfully said, "'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

And you hopeless creatures – the guys, learn to accept decisions (which very well include rejections). Because not facing the truth worsens up matters for both sides and ends any possible chance of people getting into a stronger relation, or even saving the relation they used to share.

Speaking on behalf of a handful of guys,

(handful, because I know the majority of them are asses and need different treatment)

I hope I haven't offended anyone of the fairer sex (unwillingly, of course), while simply trying to get our feelings out (like we boys always mess stuff up)

Yours 'Respectfully',

A guy, who has loved and lost.