Taken For Granted?

There are times when you are not able to decipher why am I getting this in return? 

You feel you're doing everything with the best intentions, trying to earnestly make a place in someone's life .. in whatever capacity that is! 

But the result is still the same - No reciprocation, no response. 

Or, I think there are responses when the person does need you. 

So for instance - it could be that they wish to talk, rant, discuss or ask or communicate when the person needs you. That could possibly be the time there's a smooth flow of communication. 

But if you expect someone to be there for you - that may get replies such as " I am not that active or I am busy or I don't prefer chatting" 

It further makes you think.. rather than overthinks whether is there a fault with you? Is it that you're going overboard? 

How do you find out why they behave this way, especially when you've always entertained this behaviour from them. 

There's maybe an unsaid rule here - you have to accept the person as they are .. accept when they behave similarly but if you try to be that, it might not be accepted by the opposite person/persons. 

Everyone's busy! Let's face it - no one's got all the time in the world. Yet we never use the word "busy" when we interact with someone, we just take out time because maybe the person's special or worth giving that time. 

But when you maybe expect a response - Sorry I am very busy or I just don't get time are the replies. 

Well trust me, I've researched enough to know that everyone's got 24 hours ..not one second more nor one second less. 

Well, another instance - they'll also meet you - when that's the last plan they have ? or rather no plans! But always make you feel that it was a big obligation to find out some time for you! 

Why force someone to consider you as the last option or such that you feel obligated? One thing to note here is that being free is not equivalent to being available! 

So there's no need for them to take so many efforts to find out a few minutes for you! You don't need to cancel everything just because they meet you rarely and they have no plans, so they squeeze some time for you. Well, you don't need to give in always! It's got to be mutual and natural and certainly not out of compulsion or obligation. 

It's nice to be content with yourself, spend time with yourself but after all, we all are human beings. We all feel the need to be loved, accepted, and liked - especially when you aren't doing much wrong or even ready to apologize and work on things. But sadly, even forgiveness isn't a common trait today. 

Is it all about priorities? 

Is it all about taking a person so much for granted that the person begins to question whether kindness or niceness has no value or why he /she's treated this way? Self-confidence is something that features at this point, something that should still keep people like this going. 

Well, there's no relation between being nice and being right. Even if you are nice, you could be wrong. But the point here to again see is if the person's still ready to rectify and accept that he/she was wrong. 

It might be a tad too late for people to realize how much granted they had taken the person who was always trying to make a place in someone's life but again sadly, just like investing or finding a place is costly, so is letting someone in! 

And by the time they decide, the person's already gone back into his own shell ..his comfort zone...the person's forced to go back into his own shell as there's no acceptance or rather no opportunity for acceptance if there's a lot of niceness, a lot of efforts, a lot of "Yes, I'll do or yes I'll help" rather than streetsmart No's to his resume! 

But in the end, I feel there's something very overpowering and that's the person's conscience - and I'm sure that conscience will be very proud of the efforts the person took to be nice, to try, to forgive and well even to forget how granted he/she's been taken! 

I think that's what matters the most! Maybe the answers are all within. However difficult it might be to achieve but that's the practical/impractical solution. 

It's important to consider this both ways! At times we might be at the receiving end but a bigger concern would be if we are also taking someone for granted and are making him/her feel that way! Well, it's never too late to make amends at both ends! or is it a tad too late?

What do you think?