My struggle with Dating Apps

Dear Readers,

Today I am going to share my thoughts and experience with the dating Apps. 

I am living in 2021 and the current generation is living in digital world where everything depends either on social media platforms or smartphone application. I always try to make my pace with the changes according to time . Though I am tech-savvy person but still in few cases my thoughts make me belongs to 90’s. My thoughts of having a boyfriend or being in a relationship is quite different from the current generation. Till date I couldn't get the exact meaning of Dating and still I haven't received any justified answer to it. Because in 90’s , people used to start a friendship before getting into any conclusion. Those dating were sort of knowing each other in a better way either by spending time or by filling pages through their emotions. The pace used to be slow but the bonding was no doubt strong enough to live the remaining life with each other. 

But the current digital world is complete different and opposite. People need immediate reply or response as noone wants to waste a single second to move on. Spending time with eachother is not about a lengthy conversation, it's all about the materialistic things to make the other one happy. Everything goes so fast like a race but that bond is not enough to last atleast a month or year. 

After my last disaster relationship 6 years back, I gave enough time to myself and enjoyed my single hood. In between some crush happened but one way. Finally because of the people in my surrounding , I thought to give this digi-love world a try though I was not convinced enough. but nowadays people don't have patience to talk to even your neighbours so it's very difficult to have a conversation randomly and because of these scenarios finally I installed a popular dating app. 

You must be questioning , if I was looking for a serious relationship then I should have installed matrimony App. But No… even I not someone who will be convinced by 3 to 4 meetings and will take a decision for entire life. As I said , I am not in a race so I want to take enough time to be in a lifetime relation. 

I created my profile by uploading my photos and answering the required questions . But again I questioned myself “ how someone will judge me just by these questions and specially photos filtered with many options”.

I didn't choose any prime option as I don't want to pay initially. But after few hours , finally my profile started getting likes and messages. 

So the question popped up in my mind. Whom to select and whom to reject because they all are strangers for me and on the basis of written details with few information of likes and dislike , I didn't want to judge anyone. Because the nature and maturity of a person is complete different from their likes and dislikes. Few person with great looks and personality necessarily may not be kind and genuine. 

But still I continued with the chat process despite of least interested in chatting. For me to someone better , you can have a wonderful conversation. Chatting continuously is something not my cup of Tea and the person in other side expected a quick response. Few individuals expectations and perception from this conversation was to a different level like no one was actually interested on knowing me. 

A week chatting or few days over phone conversation, how people can admit that they feel for someone . 

Finally with loads of dissatisfaction, after 2 hours I uninstalled the App. And again my thoughts made me realise that I can't match the expectations and definition of current Dating . 

Like this I have tried 2 to 3 Dating Apps with a hope that may be I get to know someone like minded . But at the end, I end up with disappointment. 

I am not judging current generation neither I am questioning anyone's perception. But one thing definitely I wish to share, along with the definition of dating , the respect for Love and relationships has been changed to an extent.