Learning To Be Good With Being Alone Part 1

Learning To Be Good With Being Alone Part 1

So if you know me or follow me you know that I have dated a lot since my divorce 12 years ago. Hell, I made it part of my blog for the longest time. I also raise my hand and admit to always having a man in my life. I went from one relationship to another never taking time to find me. 

I kept picking the same type of men after my divorce, narcissist, controlling, passive aggressive, just like my ex husband. Men with issues and didn't know why but it was because I was broken and never took the time to fix me. This wasn't a them issue, this was a me issue. I kept picking the same men over and over. I would go with the same shit from one relationship to the other. Never taking the time to unpack, to take ownership, or to find out why. 

When I finally found a good man who treated me like a queen and respected me. I knew he had no hidden agenda, it was then I decided to go back to therapy because I knew what they all said about me was actually true. I never believed it because it came from these narcissists. I had a short fuse, I didn't trust anyone, I could go from 0 -100. But I wanted this relationship to work so I had to do the work and I did.

I decided to walk away after I realized that this relationship was too heartbreaking to continue. He wanted children and I did not. I also knew that I needed to take time alone. I needed to work through this heartbreak alone to find myself again. Or for the first time. So I didn't date for a year. I hung out with my children and my friends. I had church and my church family. I concentrated on the things I loved and wanted to do. Home projects, the gym, my health, yard sales, things that made me happy. 

So today my friends I want you to realize that being alone is okay. And tomorrow I will discuss how I got to be okay with my own company and what I feel now. In case you don't know, we all must be the change we want to see.
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