Knowing when enough is enough

Knowing when enough is enough 

I write a lot about resetting your life. A lot of times in life we do stupid things and I'm the 1st to raise my hand on this. I do stupid things all the time, I am far from perfect and I tell you all that every day in this blog. Now for me being stupid is not a bad thing, it means we have room to grow, to learn lessons and hopefully change our behavior. 

But sometimes some of us need more time than others. We don't know when to walk away because sometimes we're so stuck in stupid that were like a broken record.

(Sorry, dinosaur reference) Going around and around and skipping on that same point until we kick the record player.

Albert Einstein once said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results and that's what so many of us do. We stay at the same job that disrespects us and doesn't value us. We stay in the same relationship that we know is hurting us or that we've spoken to them about how we feel and yet they disregard that. We stay in friendships that are no longer working for us, that are one sided or that makes us feel like we're doing all the work and yet we stay.

Why do we stay in all of these places? Is it because we hope that they will change? Is it because we love these people so much? Or is it because we value ourselves so little? Why is it that we stay in these unfulfilling places in our lives? 

I don't know about everyone else but I know for me I had lost my self esteem after being in a verbal abuse marriage for 24 years. For me any attention was good attention. I was willing to put up with crap, I was willing to ignore the red flags, I was willing to not walk away when I knew I should have a long time ago. For me I needed multiple signs to say this was not it and even then I still stayed.

 I know that many of us are in this boat together. Maybe we think we won't find anything better, maybe we are comfortable, maybe it's the lifestyle we are afraid of losing, there are many reasons we keep holding on. Fear is one of the biggest reasons, fear of the unknown, fear of what if? What if I can't find another man or job, what if I'm too old? What if this is the best I can get? So many "what if's" that we scare ourselves stiff and then we are unable to move.

Unfortunately sometimes the only way to get us unstuck is that it has to come down to being sick and tired. Being so sick and tired that it doesn't matter, you need to get out. Whether it's about your job, your friendships, your kids, or your relationships, when you get to that point when you're sick and tired of being sick and tired then you're done.

And to the men out there, I don't know if you know this but once a woman's done. Honey, there is no going back for that woman.

She has washed her hands of you, she's done and she has walked away for good. Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out, kind of done.

For so many of us it takes getting to that point before we're like okay it's so over. We all know that there were so many signs along the way before you get to that point of I'm outta here, I'm done but yet we miss those signs. We need to really pay attention to our intuition, to that inner voice, to those red flags because trust and believe there's always going to be the signs for you to see. 

We must say as soon as we see these signs, "I'm not staying around to see the end of this movie, I already know how it ends and I'm not gonna waste my time"

This is what we should be saying and then we should be running like Forrest Gump, run, Forrest run! 

We don't need a replay of what happens because we all know how that turns out. How many times do we need to see this movie? How many times do we have to feel unfilled, hurt, unappreciated, unloved to know this is not where I want to be? How many times must we need to make excuses? To say the same things yet nothing changes? Seriously? How many times?

We must learn our lessons and move on. We must see the signs and be gone, we must know our self worth and know we deserve better. Forget the fear, step out of faith and know it has to get better than replaying the hurt once again.

So today my friends remember, look out for the signs, listen to your intuition, know the lesson or learn the lesson and then walk away, run away if you must. Reset your life and know when enough is enough.

"Be the change you want to see"

 @TreadmillTreats