You Do You

We’re all narcissistic and grew up being told that we’re unique snowflakes who are going to change the world one day. And one day we all feel like absolute crap and wonder where it all went wrong. Like for instance, you mess your education up and there you see people lined up to call you a loser or perhaps a failure. Or you drop out of college and again, they call you a loser. Don’t listen to them. The world has 10 billion people and the person who fed all the unique snowflakes probably just played us for real because the world doesn’t revolve around our first world problems or our success. Stop telling others they aren’t successful enough. Don’t call anybody a loser because our idea of success is pretty screwed. And if one finds their success in your backlog which most people do, their standards of “success” is skewed.

It’s not to feel I’m better, have more, am more, can do more — than someone else.

Your friend’s success isn’t your success and your friend isn’t a loser because she lost her job.

We have a large number of people who bring us down. Who think falling down is shameful. Who think climbing and reaching first makes them better than you.

What we don’t know is we can never be better than somebody else, likewise. 

We’re different individuals. We’re scared to run because people laugh when we fall. We’re often called failures. However, we’re all failures. I just don’t think we need to get caught up with the word ‘success’. Because it’s too easy to deceive ourselves that we need to achieve someone else’s goal.

I say, do whatever you want. Don’t listen to another voice. You can play a flute on the street if that makes you happy. You can sing in front of a thousand people if it makes “YOU” happy. Do nothing at all if doing something doesn’t satisfy you enough. I don’t think I’m exactly shaking up the field of psychology by suggesting that, as humans, we have a need to conjure up. Not the merits of pursuing mediocrity, mind you — because we all should try to do the best we possibly can — but rather, the merits of accepting mediocrity when we end up there despite our best efforts