Father, A real Bliss

No need to be a feminist to support your girl child, just carry the spunk to face the society and develop a mindset that accepts equality of genders. I guess parents like mine are the best ever examples of grit and enthusiasm. Your children are your product; your glamour, your elegance, your character, your personality is all saved within them. So parents not only owe their children the affection but the better version of their personality. Teach your daughters the level of confidence they need to survive on this planet, gol-roti can wait.

I have got a story to tell;

Not all men run for race, “From being a small village boy to an independent citizen, a man with mysterious dreams, my dashing father”.

Not all women are son-lovers, “From a small village girl to a conqueror, my gorgeous mother”.

They were married back then. Both belonging to two different middle class families from their respective small villages. Father, a govt. employee and mother, a home-maker. Initially, may be like every other human, they dreamt of a son, but they were blessed with four daughters. Thus stopped dreaming of a son to carry their race. My father, a totally simple and an honest person. Mother, an emotional fool. Both love their daughters like anything. One could see the way they nourished them, the way of their upbringing. Belonging to a very small village, where not all fathers treat sons and daughters equally, and these two people had such a zest to gift their daughters a good education. The concept their life was based on is “The ancestral material things are not gonna give you any identity, but the knowledge you carry, the education you carry will definitely be with you throughout your life and you’ll be your own hero”.

Their zest to provide their daughters the best education made them forget about the lavish life they could live. Their daughters became the limelight of their house which gave them the power to invest all their money on their daughters’ education. They took every possible step to educate their daughters, sent them to the best schools they could, moved to a new city, most important they believed in them and supported them in every possible way. I remember, one of the kin telling my mother, “why are you people investing all your money on their education don’t you forget they have to get married and move to a new home, so no amount of money will come back to you”. That is when my mother replied, “we only want them to be recognised by their own identity, we are not educating them to earn money”. I was so damn surprised to see the courage my mum carried.

After Bachelor’s, most of my friends chose to apply for Master’s in subjects other than mathematics. I being passionate about mathematics right from class-11wanted to explore mathematics further. I totally remember people telling me, “you are a girl, mathematics is not your cup of tea, take a lighter subject”. That is when my father believed in me and sent me for pursuing masters degree in Mathematics. He has supported me whole heartedly without being gender-specific. It was first ofcourse because of Almighty and then because my parents believed in me, I qualified master’s with 87%. That is when my father felt proud of his own choice and suggested me to go for Ph.D. in the same subject. And now, here I am.

They have fought so many battles to be the best parents and educate their daughters to all extremes. They not only went against the society, but also they had to fight their own furious kinfolk. They moved to a new city, adopted a new culture, new people, new rules, which I think was a very big deal for where they have come from. I wish Almighty blesses everyone with parents like us who believe in them and support them in every possible way.

My suggestion to children is that; Dream Big and then make every possible effort to pursue them but make sure you are not the reason your parents get to suffer at the end. Be their strength.

My suggestion to parents; Let your children dream big, evaluate their talent and then support them to the fullest to cultivate the results out of it. Be the best version of parents so they can be proud of you.

 

My Dad, My Hero.