Don't judge me by one blog

Don't judge me by one blog

I have written this blog every day, 5 days a week, for the last 8 years. I write about everything, my life, the world, exercise, dating, and family. I write about love, disappointment, failures, and my hopes and dreams, there is not a topic I haven't written about. 

Yesterday I told someone that I write, and they went to my website and read my blog I had written from the day before, called "There are no princes." 

Then they proceed to tell me that I am not an inspirational writer but a man-basher. 

Well, they were right....for that day I was a man basher. Being a single women in today's world is tough and after 8 years of being lied to, being stood up, catfished and listenIng to men say horrible and vulgar things to me, I had lost it and yes, I wrote about it, just like I write about everything else in my life.

But does one blog define a person? Is that all you're willing to look at? Did you even bother to read my series on living life large, loving big, because you never know when you will lose a loved one. Did you read the blog on forgiveness, when I forgave my rapist? How about the one on never giving up no matter how many times you fall on your face? 

No, you didn't, you chose to judge me on one and only one blog and frankly that is your problem. I imagine this is how you view people and the world. See I know there is more than one side to a story, I know there is more about a person then you see. I know people have flaws yet I can see that they have a huge heart. I see the big picture, the whole picture before I judge someone and even then I think there may be extenuating circumstances that might come into play, and truly the bottom line is, who am I to judge? 

I know people aren't the mistakes they've made, that everyone has done or said things they wished they could have taken back. That when you are young, you are dumb and you are learning your way through life,and that moment in time shouldn't define the rest of your life.

We are here to learn, to grow, to change and yes, at certain times we screw up, we say things out of anger, out of pain but as long as we learn a lesson out of it, that is the only thing we should hold on to.

So today my friends, don't be so fast to judge someone else. They say first impressions are critical but they are not the end all and be all. Sometimes a first impression may be bad but if you're willing to look past that, to give that person another chance, you might get a chance to know an incredible person, who maybe on that day, wasn't their best. Don't lose that opportunity.

"Be the change you want to see"

@Treadmilltreats