2 kids, 2 different treatments

 Two children, two different treatments 

I cannot for the life of me understand how you can have two children and you treat them so differently. 

Look, I would get it if one was always in trouble or on drugs or stole from you, but if you have two wonderful, kind daughters, why would you treat one like a stepchild? 

I ask myself this question all the time, yet I still can't figure out the answer. I cry myself to sleep, knowing my child is hurting. When she asks herself why her father hates her or why he is so mean to her and not to her sister, I have no answers for her, but my heart breaks nonetheless. 

I know they are two totally different human beings, both with their own strengths and weaknesses, yet I love them the same. I embrace their differences and the uniqueness of each of them. As their mother, I can see their shortcomings, but I still love them for all the other qualities I know they possess. 

I hurt because I don't want there to be a rift among them; that one is jealous of how the other one is being treated even though it's clearly not her fault. But we see this all the time between siblings, and I pray that this never happens here. 

I learned to pray for their father as well throughout the years that he would change for their sake. That he would be a better father for them and realize how his words hurt them as they hurt me for all those years. I ran away, but they cannot, and so here I am once again crying that he hurt my child yet again. 

Sometimes, I don't want to be Christian; I don't want to do the right thing.

I don't want to pray for him; I want to curse him out.

I am human and I am a mother and being such I will kill for my child, I hurt when they hurt, I cry when they cry, this is what a mother does, they protect their children. Yet, how can I protect them from their own father? I don't know the answers to that question, and it pains me. 

So today, my friends, all I can say if you're in this situation is try not to talk bad about their dad, try to always encourage your child. You need to lift them up, even when the other parent is putting them down. You need to tell them the great qualities they possess. Let them know that your love doesn't come with strings attached and that you love them all equally. You don't need to show them who the other parent is; trust me, they already know. All you can do is pray for them and try to love all their broken pieces back together again. 

"Be the change you want to see."

@TreadmillTreats