Hurt People Hurt

She knew things weren't good with him. There was that despondence in his voice that never lost its charm. He spent time day dreaming and smoking. The count of his cigarettes hiked day by day but his mind never settled in peace. He showed interest in road accidents and always spoke about crashing his sedan while driving.

"Their reactions stem from past that led them to certain beliefs that they accepted as truth. They are actually just preconceived as ideas projected onto others to protect their ego". The words of Dr. Alfredi echoed through her mind.

She had noticed that he made it a point to hurt her each and every day. He had hurt her deep by settling their marital affairs. He spent his time shut in his room pacing down the floor staring at the blank walls. He stopped speaking to their children and to his parents as well.

"When you know where people's reactions to you are coming from, it's much easier to not take it personally." She was in the presumption it was all to test her patience and how strong is her emotional quotient.

His dreams were recurring and was about him dying in a car crash. This dream began to possess him and it turmoiled his patience. It was not just a right eye movement phase dream but rather a 24*7 dream. This panicked him and he preferred to stay at home all alone.

Anxiety and depression can cause nightmares. Post-traumatic stress disorder causes people to experience chronic, recurrent nightmares. Dream is all about the way the brain processes emotions, stimuli, memories and information that has been absorbed throughout the waking day.

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She felt heavy as she slowly tried to open her eyes. She was crying, tears wobbled down her cheeks and her hands clasped the pillow tightly. She continuously uttered his name.

Dr. Alfredi gave him hope and explained him with patience:

Her past incidents throughout her childhood had been bitter and when she wanted to end her life you gave her life by marrying and supporting her. This created in her an unconditional love and affection towards you which became an addiction over time. Her condition is incurable as the bad memories are etched deep inside which recur time to time.

Remember it's just about them and what's inside them. Your wife is clever enough to hold onto her secrets and any number of psychological counseling will be unsuccessful. Her condition is unique in this case.

She visualizes infinite number of things that happens around her and she creates a movie the way she wants with you being in each of her visualization. With these dreams she makes it a point to hurt herself as "Hurt people hurt".

She had created a hallucination that you isolated yourself and wanted to commit suicide by crashing your car. She believed that she is the only person who can save you.

He found it hard to understand but he was happy that he could save her from hurting herself. He watched her relaxation therapy from a distance praying to the Almighty.