What You Tell Yourself Shall Be

What You Tell Yourself, Shall Be 

For years I've always had a voice in my head that said I have a bad picker. That I've always picked bad men, narcissistic, jealous, and controlling men. See that was the script I kept telling myself over and over again as many of us do. We speak it to ourselves and say you're not good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough. These also may be things that someone else has put in our heads. It may have been our parents, our families, the relationships we were in, or just our lack of self-esteem. 

A few years ago I decided to make a conscious effort of what I put out in the atmosphere. I wanted to think before I spoke. I didn't want to attract these negative things into my life anymore. So I started to say that I would not pick bad men, I now say, I used to pick those types of men. I say I used to pick emotionally unavailable men, men who would not or could not be my equal.

I've realized this is not on me, this is their issue. I've learned that I cannot save every broken man out there, they need to "complete" themselves. They have to do the work on their own before meeting me, just as I have.

This has made a huge difference in my life, I'm not perpetuating the lie I'm telling myself anymore. I'm not putting it out in the universe what I no longer want. 

What are the things you are telling yourself? What are the things that run through your head that you say about yourself? Do you say I'm not good enough? I'll never make it? It will never happen to me. I have bad luck or no one in my family has ever done it so I can't.

What is it that you keep telling yourself over and over again that keeps going back into the universe and coming back to you? You won't or can't change your mindset, it's like it is inscribed in your very fiber.

A perfect example is if you have a child and every day you tell that child he's stupid or she's stupid, eventually that's all they will believe is the words that you speak

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over them. They will not even try because why should they? They already know that they're stupid, so they just give in to those words that have shaped them 

Now a small percentage of those children will challenge what is spoken over them. A very small percentage will have enough power within themselves to say "I'm not stupid and watch I'll show you" Sometimes that's the best motivator for us is an I'll show you attitude. 

That inner voice that says "Oh yeah watch me!" 

But unfortunately, most people don't have the strength. Most people are listening to the negative things and will keep these thoughts in their heads all of their lives and that's what will hold them back.

Years ago when I had no self-esteem from being in a 24-year verbally abusive marriage. I woke up sick and tired of being sick and tired and I decided to change my thoughts. I put up post notes on my mirror that said "You are worthy, I love myself, or You can do it" Every day I would tell myself these things, and when the negative thoughts came, I would chase them away with positive ones. Over and over I said these things until I believed them. I listened to songs that said you can do it, that you're strong, that you will overcome, over and over. I read bible verses that told me anything is possible if you believe, never give up, and God's got you, all of these things changed my thoughts and made me stronger.

So today my friends remember, you run your head, you are the boss. You can reprogram your thoughts. You can wake up today and say no more! I will no longer put this out there, this is not who I am. This is not what I will accept any more. Tell yourself each and every day that I am strong, beautiful, smart, and worthy. Say it over and over, I can do anything, and trust me if you say it enough you will believe it, you will become it. What you put out there will come back to you in abundance because what you tell yourself shall be.

"Be the change you want to see"