Love At First Sight
Love At First Sight4 mins 272 4 mins 272
We six girls set out from Bangalore to Delhi. We were working in the same office. Navneet, my best friend from KG to PG and coincidentally my colleague initiated to get all the arrangements done through her cousin in Delhi, who would join us there. We were heading to the holy shrine of Vaishno Devi. Good things come to an end very soon. So did our week's trip.
We all bounced back to work with extra vigour. Akin to Hindi movies, since the moment I stepped into my home this cousin of Navneet was constantly haunting my mind. I tried my best to get over the stupid attraction as I termed it, but I couldn't. We hadn't interacted, we didn't click photos, there was nothing between us. I confessed everything to Navneet my confidante, because she knows me like a book. Surprisingly, she too had a similar news that her cousin had a crush on me. I was at complete crossroads. I am a pure kannada brahmin, and he a punjabi. Two states recreated!!
After pouring out to Navneet, however, somewhere deep within I had a feeling he was my guy. Navneet, my friend, philosopher and guide assured me that Kuldeep was a caring and loving person and if I really liked him, I could go ahead. Conversations over the phone started and we started knowing each other. Then, we started chatting. Whenever, he would come to Bangalore on official work he would meet me. We then fell in love. Finally, we decided to break the ice and reveal the news to our families. I was prepared to face the frets and fumes of my family. My parents straightway rubbished the idea. Other family members tried to over-power me, convince me............and tried all means to make me give in. I was firm on my stand, because with the help of Navneet and regular meetings with Kuldeep I had done enough home-work. Only after analysing all the pros and cons I took the final call. It would be a wedlock with Kuldeep or none else.
His family readily agreed. My mother spoke to Navneet, who tried to convince her that he was a good boy, but she only wept and expressed her fears. Theatrics set in next. I became a stranger in my own home. At times circumstances, really scared me, whether I was doing the right thing or no. If anything went wrong, neither my parents nor I would be able to face society, thought I. Navneet's support, Kuldeep's love and assurance made me strong.
The date of the wedding was decided and the arrangements started on a rather dismal and dreary note from our end. When we started for Delhi, there were tears of sorrow in each pair of eyes of all my family members. They were gripped in an unknown fear or rather apprehension. All the arrangements were done by the groom's party and the wedding according to their custom. The welcome, their warmth, the wedding gradually started transforming the attitude of my people. When my mother was bidding goodbye, my mother-in-law, hugged her affectionately, and assured her that there would be no complaints from their end regarding me, and that I would be filling a void of a daughter in their family. This time, my family members shed tears of joy. It's been three years now, I have become an integral part of Kuldeep's family and it feels nice when my parents say, "We couldn't ask for a better son-in-law than Kuldeep".
My intention of sharing my story with the present younger generation, both boys and girls, is that once you take a decision, stick to it. Be honest, and faithful to each other. Overcome initial hiccups together. At the same time, only after collecting complete and correct information from genuine sources take the final decision. Our parents are definitely our well-wishers, they will always do what is best for us. But at times, when situations go the other way round, we must be able to convince them that we have taken the right decision. We should also ensure, never to let them down. Our behaviour and relationships must make them hold their heads high. While uniting with another soul, we must also be instrumental in bringing two families together.
Are marriages made in Heaven? Was it love at first sight? Or is it purely Vaishno Devi's benign benedictions? Kuldeep and I are still trying to figure out..................