What All The Fuss Is About!!!

Arrange marriage >Love marriage >Live in relationships

Is it about youth or adopting to western culture or about the increasing degree of phobia towards commitment?

During ancient times or what our generation likes to refer the era of our parents and their parents, marriage or to be precise Arrange marriage was more about commitment than relationships. Where the two people, unknown to each other were supposed to carry a relationship. As people became more "modern", they defined the compatibility issues of Arrange marriage to be stemming from the fact that there wasn't love involved to nurture their relationships which resulted into extra ma-marital affairs. Where spouses came to find their love, affection and not just ball and chain.

Therefore, came a new era of Love marriage, where there was courtship, love, trust, nurture, care, right to choose and freedom, everything the earlier constitution lacked. But were these relationships still successful? No! So, what was amiss?

The age-old war between Arrange marriage vs Love marriage with all its pros and cons still wasn't a major success. When asked people why was that, some said its because loving from afar is easier than being continuously in each other personal "space". "Space." Was this the key to a successful relationship?

When the concept of space was something like a "Time-out" or another issue to accept responsibility. So why cheat? What was the reason for having an extra-marital affair? Now that you have love, understanding, affection, care, then why is it still that couples find it lacking.

What I feel is was it really about emotions ever. Or does our generation have such a short attention span that they find it difficult to stay committed in a relationship. Was all the shenanigans and tantrums just an escape or for want of better word is it a new phobia – "commitment phobia"?

Making rounds these days is a new trend in relationship – "Live-in". So, what is the logic behind this new form of relationships? Is it just reaping the benefits without sowing the seeds? Or another way to run from commitment?

On conducting a survey about what are the views about relationship of couples in general, it was found that most people prefer love marriage over arrange and those under the bracket for arrange is mostly because of the influence of their family.

Major conflicts revolve around family and society where neither of them is supportive about going against the flow. Indian culture is still a traditional one and anything new isn't easily accepted. Even today Love Marriages aren't openly and easily supported by families and Inter-caste marriages is like the icing on the cake.

Arrange marriage have evils like dowry, divorce, females not allowed to be working and just manage home and kids, still, it's the most accepted. Whereas Love marriage gives you more liberty and to make choices and have happy endings but still are considered as something gritty.

Live-in relationships are looked down upon and aren't considered genuine as this are just a casual way of having fun. One can still not justify and still be accepted by the society when it comes to live-in. It's as good as a "friends with benefits" arrangement and is a taboo in our society.

Life has become so complicated and with the "It's Complicated" status of every relationship, people are losing their belief in the institution of marriage. They have become commitment phobic since they are uncertain about what curve-balls life is going to throw their way and if their relationship will even have its "happily ever after"!

Today's generation is all about self-independence and for then marriage is dependency on another person who is only going to hurt us and our expectations. When having a child was a symbol of love, now is an "oops" moment or an unwanted obligation. All they believe in is now and casual. They are hesitant to get into uncertainty and long-term and end up being someone's heartbroken ex. They believe that no strings attached is the lesser of the evils.

Even though every form of the said relationship above isn't 100% successful but still when it comes to Indian culture, traditional customs are still accepted with all its flaws and not frowned upon.

Having said that, there still are people who believe in marriage, love and devotion towards each other. There still exist soulmates and lovebirds and people waiting for their happily ever after because even behind every cynic is a dreamer who dreams are just waiting to come true. There still are people who are relationship goals, who give people hope about being committed. That emotions are meant to be felt and higher the risks, sweeter are the rewards. People who dare to fall in love and fall deeper! Those die-hard romantic at heart, waiting for their Mr. Right while reading love stories. With crushes and school sweethearts and love at first sight!

Because even when everyone thinks it's stupid, someone is still playing cupid!!!

So, love life with all you have because you only live it once!!!