Lack Of Understanding Between Parents And Children

This a story which has a meaningful words based on daily life of girls. The characters are father, mother, son and a daughter. Fathers name is Mr.Rajesh Patel, Mothers name is Mrs.Ranjan Patel and brothers’ name is Tejas Patel. And my name is Jigisha Patel.

I am going to talk about my real life story. Starting from my house there are 4 family members my mom, dad, brother and me. As my family has a patriarchal mindset especially my dad he had his own rules and regulations in the family .He was very strict about his rules, regulations especially with me because I am the daughter of the family. He decided what career I should take up, choosing colleges etc. He didn’t want me to join Boys College. I were to join Girls College so that I could mix up with them and make friends. When I entered to the college on the first day I was not happy. A gang of girls came to me and asked me, ‘what is your name and which school you belong to’ they laughed at me and started teasing me. I wanted to share with my family but they had no time for me. After some years when I completed my H.S.C Exams. I wanted to do my graduation but my family forced me to take up home science that would help me in my marriage life. My brother had full right to take up any cporces he wanted. I had no such rights to take up because I was born as a “GIRL”. My brother had the full freedom to make friends and go out with them and for me it was a restriction no friends and no outings. I wanted that freedom which my brother had. One day my family bought a boy and they were talking about my marriage I was shocked. I didn’t want to get married so early. I wanted to live my life and make my career. So I asked my mom what’s this I don’t want to get married so soon. My mom said "This is your dads decision I can’t help he is the head of the family you have to follow what he says and I think he is doing this for your own good". I went into my room and started crying. I soon came to a drastic decision that I will leave my house and go somewhere. Next day early in the morning I left the house with my bags packed and I ran away. I wrote a note to my family before living the house. It was very difficult for me to take this step but I had to take this step because there is no one to listen to my problems. What I was going through. I started working. I did my part time job and I got accommodation to an orphanage. I was very happy with them but I was also missing my parents too. 

       One fine day I had gone out with my friends I saw my brother drinking alcohol and his friends started hitting him. He had not given them money. I ran towards him and I took him to the orphanage he was unconscious and all the sisters in the orphanage looked after him. His left hand was fractured and his leg to I was much tensed about my brother. He was not able to get up. One day I was feeding him food he started crying and said "I don’t have words. I feel very guilty in front of you. How should I say sorry? I’m not fit to say sorry. I didn’t treated you as my sister. I am your elder brother I should have taken care of you and protect you. I failed to do my duty I’m so sorry jigisha". He bitterly started crying and me too .I told him " No brother it’s not your fault don’t be guilty pleas don’t say sorry”. After a few days my dad n mom came looking for my brother. And found me with him. They were shocked. My mom was happy to see me but my dad was angry with me and he told my brother. Come on son we have to go from here this is not your home this is an orphanage you have your family and home. Brother said to my dad "What about jigisha she is also coming with us home". Father said "No never she is not a part of our family. She has spoilt my name our families name. She is no longer included in our family" Brother said "If my sister Jigisha will not come I will also not come.” Why are you not accepting her, because she has done a big mistake living her family and house.  Yes I know she made a big mistake but at my point of view she has done the right thing. You have never give her own freedom to think, to take up something in her life, to make her own choices of her life especially her career and at last when she was not ready to get married you were forcing her to get married. What could she do. She was helpless she had no one to talk to no one to share her problems to. What is the use of a family like this, which has no unity, love and understanding. I will not enter in this family without my sister jigisha. I know I made big mistakes. I will not repeat it again.

Than my mom started crying and came towards to me. She felt ashamed and guilty. She said "Sorry my child I didn’t care about you. I didn’t understand you, I didn’t become a perfect mother who takes care of their child n support them in every step. I’m sorry jigisha." I told my mom, "No need to say sorry mom you are elder than me instead of you I’m sorry. What I have done. My brother said “one day you will cry when no one is around you than you will come to us. My dad went home angrily after some days he got married with another women. Day by day she gave him sleeping tablets. Slowly he started losing his health she took all his wealth and ran away and now he became alone. And he became ill and started crying a lot. He missed his true family a lot. Next day he went to meet his family to the orphanage and apologized his wrong deeds. The family took him back and lived happily.