Time Changes Things

It amazes me that when I look back over my life, how true this statement is. Time does indeed change things. Nine years ago today, my world fell apart yet again. I was dating a man who I thought loved me and wanted to spend his life with me.

I was just coming out of a horrible abusive marriage and was longing to hear those words I had so very much missed for the last 24 years. I was vulnerable and believed everything he was feeding me, even when my intuition was screaming something wasn't right. I continued to believe him because my life was so barren from emotion.

I bought it, hook, line, and sinker. The day I found out he was nothing more than a sociopathic liar, I kicked him to the curb, literally with no second chances. I called him out for everyone to see. No man was ever going to get over on me more than once. I was done, but I was truly hurt because I trusted yet again. After all the pain I endured during my marriage and the fact that he knew all that I went through, yet he still chose me to hurt this way.

It was more than I could bear, I shut down emotionally and went into my writing. I didn't let another man get close to me. I instead got closer to God, I prayed, and I cried, and I let time heal me.

As time went on, I realized the lessons he had taught me from this pain. I could make it on my own without a man. I taught my girls never to put up with a lying, cheating man. That I should always listen to my intuition, always.

Even a year later, my world changed 360 degrees. And nine years later, well…I could never imagine where I would be from that pain I was in back then. I have my faith, I have an incredible family and wonderful friends. I have a business I love, a home I never imagined getting. I finished my first book and wrote a second book. I am happy and peaceful.

I am truly grateful for the pain he caused me because I would have never found myself and these lessons without it.

So today, my friends, no matter how dark it might be, don't give up hope. Hold on. Look for the lessons that the pain is teaching you and just know that when you look back a year later or nine years later, you will be amazed at what a difference it can make. Time does change things. Just hold on.