Marriage

Marriage, a ceremony where families of one boy & one girl gather together & mark the beginning of a new life for the young couple. Friends & relatives gather at one place, bless the new couple & finally the couple moves to their new home. This is what we call marriage. But is this the real definition.

Me & my wife got married in November 2010. I was in Delhi working for an MNC. When I brought my wife with me to Delhi, the first thing I told her was that I work in 24x7 environment without fixed off. But this news was not shocking for her. She had made up her mind that she will manage her new life according to the preference of her husband. A true cultured Indian girl.

A time came in my life when I got a golden opportunity of a high salaried job in Uttarakhand. I told my wife, "You have never been in a hill town. I have completed my Engineering from Himachal Pradesh, so I am habitual. Do you want to come with me or will you prefer to live with my parents in our hometown Gorakhpur, Uttar Pradesh." Very politely she said, "Who will take care of you if I stay here?" From fast moving life of NCR to a difficult hill state, it was a sudden transformation for my wife. But she did not prefer to stay in our highly comfortable parental home, she went with me.

I worked in Uttarakhand for 1 year. It was my brother's marriage. I was enjoying the preparation & decoration of my home when a call came from my office, "Mr. Piyush, our project in Uttarakhand is over & we are very thankful to you for being a dedicated & humble employee. But we are sorry to say that we are not extending the contract period of our employees. You will have to leave the organization. Your experience letter, awards for your achievements in our organizations & other necessary documents will be sent to you by email." I thanked the HR & put down the phone. 

I just looked at my wife. She was dancing with other relatives & looking after other arrangements of the ceremony. I thought, "Should I give her this news or not?". I was roaming in a confused manner in every room. She observed me & immediately understood that I am in some problem. She came to me and said, "Why are you upset, is everything OK?" I said, "My boss called me & said that the project is over & now I am out of the organization. I am jobless now." She looked at me, smiled & said, "It is no big deal. Don't be upset. We are at our own home. It's your brother's marriage. Just enjoy. We will discuss these things after the function." Saying this she went to participate in dance activities. She was dancing with a sweet smile on her face. But I knew it was just to show off. She was broken from inside, but she did not want to tell me so that I should not get upset.

I worked as Engineer in many MNC's, but I was not getting desired success in my life. Gradually my inclination shifted from engineering to motivational speaking. But most of my closed ones were not happy with this decision. They said," After working in one particular job role, how can you suddenly shift your job. This is not a good thing." When everyone disagreed with me, I was sitting upset in my room. My wife came to me & enquired the issue. I said, "The new profession that I want to join, I feel I will be financially more secure with that." She said, "I am confident about you. Whatever you decide, it will be perfect. Are you confident about yourself?"

Her father gave me everything at the time of our marriage, luxurious car, household goods, 2 laptops, microwave oven, washing machine, LCD TV, AC & much more. Leaving all the comforts of life, she opted to be with me, but I was not able to give her the comforts she deserves. But the best part is she has never asked for any comfort.

Seeing her unconditional love for me, I felt like marriage is not just a function after which two people live with each other throughout their life. It is the bonding of heart with heart, soul with soul & hope with hope.