The Decisions We Make

The most important and challenging part of life is "decision making". Making good decisions is not learnt within a day but by experience over the years. This experience is gained by all the bad decisions and wrong choices. Success has many definitions. For some it is to become a socially important person, for some it is to achieve good grades, for some it is to provide two meals a day and the list goes on but they all have same thing in common: a goal.

Lets see this most clichéd story: a girl leaves her love for a wealthier man. What is your first thought? It feels so wrong, doesn't it? What if she was in a toxic relationship? What if she was forced by her parents to marry the wealthier guy? What if she left him because he couldn't provide for two? What if she had a fatal disease and she doesn't want her partner to to grieve about it and could possibly be cured by a good medication her love couldn't provide? There could be so many versions of the same basic story line. The society does not think of all the favoured reasons for the girl. Instead it thinks of that girl as some gold digger. At least that is the first thought.

Similarly there are always pros and cons of each situation. Make sure you know all the possible gains and losses and only then take the risk. Your work, your dream, your ambitions are none of others business. They don't get to decide your path, your future. Therefore don't burden your heart by thinking what others or 'the society' thinks. People always have their own version of judgement and the society, it's criticism. It's OKAY to fail unless you are willing to see through the failure and aim right back at your target. This 'will' to acknowledge 'failure', 'aim again' at the target and 'determination' to keep going is what makes one successful. 

A person's personality also plays an important role in becoming successful. One should always be open-minded. Accept the people around you. Do not criticise them for they can too criticise you. Correct them if they are wrong but in a polite way. This way create an environment in which you are pushed towards your goal. As they say, everybody is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Don't belittle anyone for what they are. 

Yes there are times you get sad or depressed but never let past decisions or actions comsume you. Past is in the past. All you have right now is the present. To make your future beautiful, all you have to do is work in the 'present'. Everything happens for a reason. Therefore, it could be a beautiful experience or a tough lesson. Both are excellent teachers. Embrace them.