Marriage Or Market Place..?

Marriage is one of the best days for any person but when it comes to India it is a festival in itself. Loads of people in houses, with the people you have not met in years are there they are to bless you and obviously to tell you parents what better options they had for your partner. And when it comes to spending in marriages, we Indians can beat any nation by our “Big Fat Indian Weddings”.

These weddings are not about happy marriages, they have some real big things to handle.

We are dedicated to make our auntijis, unclejis and bhabhijis happy and there khatirdari is the whole point. In this whole lot of show off we forget that agenda is not just a marriage but rather a happy marriage.

To this something strikes me that marriage is all about two families coming together and two individuals to share life. That’s something to be happy about. Isn’t it? So now the question is why we are so stressed about marriages, that from the moment I was born my family is saving, planning and thinking about this marriage. And believe me there are still years left for this dreamy marriage to happen. Though now it seems like a national passion.

These weddings are more like demands from either side or societal pressure. Spending money won’t give you happiness in any way. According to the stats 80% of the loans taken by lower middle class is for this marriage day only.

And if the couples are made in heaven then why these marriages are not forever. These big marriages are not an agreement that this will eventually bring happiness to your children. We are in major need to get rid of the mentality like this and should understand that this is just greed feeding or moreover just a long process of show off.

For example, in Punjab today 30,000 girls are living in hell after having a big fat Indian wedding.

There are many people who are not up for these big weddings and are totally against it. One of such organisation is Tanzim-khuda-el-minnat. This is an initiative by the small Muslim community who abandon useless money spent in marriages and support simple marriages.

There is no point in spending everything you have earned in your whole life over one day. And for the record its your parent who are spending.

Talking about the wastage in these big weddings. Food is wasted in the nation where people die because of hunger but obviously they are too poor to digest the rich food of weddings.

And if we talk about money then in the nation that breaks the poverty record almost every next year. It will be so no right to give something to the people on streets rather then spending it blindly on weddings. After all they may not feel right about someone helping them!

Weddings are something to be enjoyed and not be something be so stressed about. Someone is stressed to satisfy the other side. While others are stressed to tell that they are above others and are be treated well.

Many lives revolve around this one single day without a guarantee of lifetime happiness. Ever heard someone saying that spend 20 lakhs in this wedding and you will live happily ever after. There are big corporate houses working daily to decide what should be the budget and turn these pure relations to deals.

When it’s about weddings it is more about two families and two souls being there for each other and stand by each other in everything. But turning it into, a way to spend blindly and raising the bars daily. We are just contributing to the nation as the pressure builders and not the change makers.