I Don't Feel Safe Here Anymore!

Why is she still unsafe? Why does she feel unsecure yet today, not alone but in a crowd of crores of people?

They say women have limitations in each step.

They say women should follow the specific rules in each step.

They say women can't fly free.

They say women can't compare themselves to men.  

 

 All the 'W' questions arrive here.

Who decides those limitations and rules?

Why do they decide those limitations and rules?

Who are they to set those limitations and stop women from flying high for their happiness?

These are some of the questions kept unanswered and even if answered they are biased against women. Maybe the answers are known but are not acceptable to the male-oriented society.

The problem does not lie in gender.

The problem lies within the thinking of an individual.

The problem does not lie with clothing.

The problem lies within the perspective of an individual.

The problem lies within the upbringing of an individual.

  

A boy is always taught that he is a boy and he cannot cry like a girl. He is stronger than girls. And a girl is always taught to stay calm and quiet and never raise her voice. Not even for her rights. And that she always has to stay in the line with limitations.

   

A woman or a girl wearing fashionable clothes or makeup is not the problem or reason(decided as per some male-dominated thinking) for the mental or physical harassment or any other wrong happenings around. The problem lies within the mentality and perspective of that individual. Otherwise, girls between age 2 to 8 who are as innocent as a baby wouldn't have been the victim of assaults like rape. These kids don't wear fashionable clothes or makeup as the reason behind the rape of most girls or women is said. They are just innocent babies wondered in their own world. They don't even know what has happened with them and why? 

We restrict our daughters with rules and regulations, from staying out late at night. We tell them to stay away and safe from their male friends. To stay safe and aware when out of the house. But we never tell them that they have to be aware in their own house too. YES! In their own house too. Because some men have reached to such extent of hawkishness that the girl is not safe even from her very own father, uncle, or brother. It is only and only about mentality and thinking problems and never about clothes or else a woman in fashionable clothes would not have been safe somewhere whereas a woman in burkha is unsafe. 

 

It is each parent's responsibility to not only tell the girl about her limitations but also to teach the boy that he has no right to harass any girl and in fact, it is his duty to protect every girl around him. This education should begin from home itself. 

A small known example I am narrating here: A teenage boy regularly used to tease his neighboring girl on the way to her school and back home. One day his mother saw his act and decided to make him realize his behavior. She did not scold him nor hit him in anger, instead, she calmly handled the situation. She made him realize his mistake by telling him that a man regularly harasses her by teasing her with different kinds of sounds on the way to her office and back home and she feels very disgusting about this. The boy immediately realized his mistake and never harassed that girl again. This is how every mother should raise his son and then only the perspective towards women would change. And this is how the society will start to change and SHE would feel safe!!