Do Not Seek Anyone’s Validation For Your Work

It is hard to imagine a life without a friend. I and my dear friend who I called sheen are the best friends since childhood. We had started over playgroup together then we moved to senior classes. Though I have met with different people and made my mind to make the bonding, it was always in vain. I remember when we went to 7 standards, we had made one good with friend Hiral, but she never co-operated with us. She is always obsessed with our friendship. We always wanted her to be our friend, but she started to envy our friendship. Somehow, she made the plans that would ruin over friendship. But we always knew that we are the most sincere best friends that could not ruin anyone's repute. I never knew her true intentions. Once I shared presentation boxes with her. I had decorated them, especially for sheen.

I was pretty dumped at that age. When she saw that I have made them with my hands for her, she turned to yellow. She hated the fact that I have made it with my hands. She instantly got infuriated and started making excuses that she does not like it. “It’s a piece of trash, you should throw it on the basket” she added, that she would buy me a new presentation box from a shop. Though I never felt at that moment. But as soon as I reach home her words started to react to my nerves. I felt very bad that she has considered my hand-made box as a piece of trash. These words shattered me. I did not share anything with sheen, I do not want to open my surprise.

Moreover, I felt that she would feel the same. Somehow I gather myself and made the mind that she may be giving me the right advice. As she is also our friend I should also seek help from her. I thought that I have taken it to my heart, although she is just helping me to get the best gift for her. So, I made the proper mind and clear all the misunderstandings from my heart. I thought that I was wrong and should take it as constructive criticism. Again, on the very next day with my clean heart, I went to Hiral to share my birthday surprise plan which I have made for the shared with Hiral that I want to surprise sheen and I have made a birthday surprise plan for her, she got infuriated. I have shared that I have made new presentation boxes for her.

All of them contain different things. For instance, one box has pictures that we took at different times. On every picture, I have written different comments and the memories which we shared at the very moment. I started comprehending that she is not happy about seeing them. Her pale facial colour is telling everything about her. She started reacting coldly. “These are all the useless things, and show me these so-called custom presentation boxes, oh! The pictures, look what you are looking” she burst into a laugh. It makes me feel confused and start to question myself I did do anything wrong? Is it a bad idea? What have I done? Since her behaviour made me confused about my surprise.

Again, I went home and started thinking about the whole incident. As I wanted to share with her, because I thought she is also our friend, and if you would see these things she will get happy. However, I was wrong. Her words hit my heart. They affected me so badly. I started crying. Since at that age these things matter a lot. You always look for some kind of appreciation. You thought that seeking someone’s validation would make your work greater which is wrong. If I would give people some good piece of advice it should be that people should not seek appreciation from anyone. As most of the time, people always ruin up your mind by devaluing your work. Therefore, they should be confident enough to accept their work. Moreover, it is up to you how you would flaunt it.

If you are not confident about your work how would people recognize your work? Though you should not be overconfident. This means you have to maintain a balance between being confident and overconfident. As soon as I was gathering myself I saw that Hiral come to my place. She asked me “where were you? I have been looking at you for two to three days, you seem lost. Is it ok or anything wrong with it?” I remained quiet. She again asked me “tell me what is bothering you, I know there is something wrong” I shared the whole story of her birthday surprise and the presentation boxes I had made for her. She asked me to show. I showed her. She hugged me so tightly. “I love it, that’s the thing that was bothering you for so long?” oh god! I love you for making incredible memories.

That very day she washed my brain and advised me that we should never look for someone’s validation for our work. As most of the time, people come to devalue your work. Therefore, you should be confident enough that you must know that whatever you have done is great. Additionally, it is very important to learn something new from mistakes. As mistakes are the thing that makes us wise. Otherwise, nobody would work in the environment. These are how things work in this world. We have to manage ourselves and adapt to the environment.