Love You Kid
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Love you kid
February 8, 2012 at 12:35am
What I can tell you about Boys... where to start they come and go, if you swim upstream you will never enjoy the ride down the river. Boys are boys, the difference between a boy and a man becomes much more defined as you get older....What is meant to be is meant to be. You cannot change someone you can only accept their faults and differences and choose to meet in the middle and want to be a better person; if someone loves you they will meet you in the middle. It involves both people getting down off their high horses though to hike that long stretch and walk the long road to a middle ground and resolution. If you are both unwilling to do that in a relationship, it's not a partnership or a relationship it's two people functioning Independently in the same household or proximity that basically are starting to resent each other. Know that you should be able trust who you are with and you should both be working toward making each other happy instead of miserable. This is an easy pattern to fall into, acting like you are unhappy with who you are with will only cause greater separation and distance, you create things with your energy and emotions; make sure it is directed appropriately and in a healthy manner from both sides.
If one person has a problem, you both have a problem. No one should make you feel inferior; you should not make others feel inferior. Don't be reckless with others’ hearts; don't allow others to be reckless with yours. Know what you want and don't settle for less, but try to recognize when what you are demanding something that is irrational or unachievable and ask yourself why you are demanding it or need it... if it's legitimately something you need to function in a relationship don't feel guilty for asking for it.. Decide what your ultimate goal is with the other person and act toward it but don't push it with too much force, alternately do not let it slip through your fingers. When you are with someone it is easy to show each other your reflections of each other, the uglier you paint your loved one's reflection... the uglier they will feel so be nice to each other, try to understand each other, be loyal. Don't forget the notion or let it be lost in translation... if you are good to me, I'll be good to you.
When you find the right person and your best friend...in another, don't take it for granted, IT IS a balancing act; IT ISN'T always easy like everyone makes it look..: Choose your battles wisely, you won’t always win, but you will both rethink everything and soften the walls you create. Always, Always, Always, Communicate, Communicate, Communicate. Listen, Listen, Listen.... Honesty, Honesty, Honesty... be honest with each other. Don't keep secrets, that is the point of having a best friend... to share your secrets with. Don't confide things in other people that you should be confiding in your partner or lover about. It's a breach of trust. Tell each other you love each other often, defame and banish pride and shame, deep unconditional love does not know either of these things and has yet to meet ego.... Don't hide things from each other, celebrate each other, pull the pieces apart and find out what they mean and who you both are... this is the greatest relationship of your life: The one you have with either yourself or whom you choose to spend your life with. They should be your best friend, you should be theirs... and you should both treat each other as such and be proud of each other. Say I Love you every chance you get, be thoughtful. Take time to read the signs, listen to the music the person you loves likes... it will tell you a lot about them. It's exciting, terrifying, it's a 50/50 shot for everyone, don't congratulate or berate yourself too much if it doesn't work out or if it does.
When you fall in love you'll know it, you'll feel it. It's an energy that radiates between you and another person and an understanding that is beyond words. Don't go to bed angry at someone. If you are mad at each other and meant to be together eventually one of you will cave for the other and come down stairs and pick you up off the couch and bring you to bed. One side must meet the other in some fashion for two things to be conjoined. Doesn't matter who or how, just that someone puts their pride aside long enough so that they meet back together again, somewhere, somehow. Find someone who makes you proud of you and encourages your hopes, dreams, and aspirations, someone that makes you feel beautiful, special, like you were made for them.... Because you will be seeing each others faces a whole lot!
Find someone who is a giving and generous person, who helps others without having to be asked. If you want to share your life with someone, they need to share... especially with your humanitarian attributes. Have you ever tried to change someone who’s selfish? It’s like pulling teeth. It’s almost like either you are born with these qualities or you aren’t or they have become who you are out of circumstances... you need someone who understands your need to be selfless at times and someone who can be thoughtful enough toward you to make you feel special without thinking you are trying to take advantage of them. Take an active interest in each other and who you both truly are. Take care of each other that is the point of being together.
You won’t always be right, you won’t always be wrong. You can both be wrong at the same time or right at the same time or both. If you are wrong and know it, be brave enough to look inside and admit it, put your pride aside and apologize and be sure the other person is willing to do the same for you. There is learning and growth found where mistakes are unveiled.
It may take a while to find these things or what you are looking for but when you do. I promise... you will find peace either within yourself or with someone else... whichever you are looking for. You have so much love in your heart, remember where you are keeping it... you will be searching whenever you've been wounded... once you find it again. You'll be ok.
Let me tell you I see you in a way now, that you can't possibly grasp how young you are and how much possibility is before you....there will be many, many loves that come and go... many many... and that is necessary because you will learn what you need to learn from them in order to take all of that knowledge into your ultimate most important final relationship which would be with yourself and eventually maybe a husband. There will be pain, joy and tears and every time you are hurt, you will have someone to run to and tell you that you deserve better and remind you of the strong capable woman you are. If you love yourself, no one can take that away.
Don't ever be ashamed of who you are or saying what you want think or feel and you will always have someone here to give you some honest answers if you are in question.
This is almost everything I know so far, I'll fill you in when I know more.
Love you kid!
I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him ♥ I will live in such a way that in my last hours I will not regret having loved too little ♥
"Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends."