The Moot Topic Of Marriage

Draupadi the Panchal princess, in her previous birth was a great devotee of Lord Shiva. Shiva was happy with her dedication and asked her to seek a boon.

Draupadi asked for an ideal husband in her next birth. A husband who would be the best archer, the strongest man in the world, the most handsome, the most intelligent and the most righteous.

Shiva said: "Dear girl, Unfortunately, it's not possible to have all these five qualities in a single man so you shall five husbands in the next birth ! ".

The story signifies two things:

First, be careful about what you ask for, and Second: if God cannot help get you the ideal mate, don't expect providence to find you one :)

Let me relate to you from my experience. I had many crushes during college. But the tragedy was that the guys I liked did not like me and I did not like the guys who happened to like me.

There is a mismatch in expectations. I may find exactly the same person I am looking for but I may not be the one he is looking for. A lot of effort wasted in looking out.

I may not have been able to crack the conundrum called Marriage, but many years into marriage, I realize that one of the tricks is to lower your expectations and understand that your spouse is not a superhuman being. He or She is as human, as fallible and as error-prone as you are,.... and they are trying their best as just as you are!