Unproposed Proposal

There was a girl named Saanvi. Years ago, she got to know a guy named “Aarav”.

Below was the silent proposal from Saanvi which she had never actually told Aarav but these feelings were buried deep in her heart.

“I never knew that I would trust any other man again.

The past was a lot more painful than you could ever imagine.

I was damaged beyond repair.

I had lost all hopes in my life.

I reached to the conclusion that I would never find any love in another man.

I lost hope in marriage and the wonderful life that comes along with it.

I lost hope in everything.

I was merely a body, functioning like a robot., eat, work, sleep and repeat.

There were very few close friends of mine who were aware of the situation and were supporting emotionally.

There were days that I thought that I would end my life but could not do it because I was the only hope for my parents.

Days, I immersed myself with a lot of work, so that I could get exhausted both physically and mentally.

Even then, nights used to be so painful because of the worst breakup that I went through.

So, I’ve reached the conclusion that I should remain single for the rest of my life.

When I used to visit my hometown, I had to put on a brave front in front of my parents.

My parents were aware of the painful breakup, They reassured me that everything is for good.

They even assured me that this change was definitely good because they never liked my first love, they always felt that was a bad sign, So when I ended things, they were more than happy and they have reassured that my life would be good.

After a year or so, they even started with the marriage proposals, little did they know, what I was going through.

Because I never had let them know that I was still in immense pain, I assured them that I was doing good.

So I tried to move on, slowly, very slowly I was pulling my life back together.

The pain was there, but maybe I got used to it.

Whenever I used to listen to any love stories or see any couples, that was my limit, I used to come to my hostel and breakdown.

Gradually I moved on for most of the part, I rerouted my mind with lots of office work and any small success in the work was hugely satisfying.

After 2 years or so, after my breakup, I was completely occupied with work and was busy with multiple tasks, suddenly one day afternoon around 3 or 4 PM, I received a message from some guy (Aarav) who was working in the same project but a different team.

In our project, usually, there would be multiple teams involved for 1 project with multiple dependencies. This guy belonged to one such defendant team. He was asking for some project information and was casually conversing with me...We mostly discussed the project and ended the conversation.

As the days passed by, we started talking more on a personal level. We became friends on Facebook and mostly we used to chat there on anything and everything.

Initial conversations were very casual and light.. I used to enjoy my time with him in our chats. Though we both were working in the same office building, we never met before. I had only seen him once or twice in the bigger meetings where complete project teams used to attend.

Even after we became friends on Facebook, we did not meet personally. As the days passed by, not sure how and never realized when slowly and steadily I have started falling for him.

He used to tease me a lot in a friendly manner and one such time, I was really in my low time as I was remembering some bad memories of my past, he texted me on Facebook

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I was merely responding to his messages in one-word answers, Soon he realized that something was terribly wrong and asked me. A couple of times before also he asked but I never had that trust to discuss my personal affairs with anyone. That too he was some guy whom I knew hardly a month or so. So earlier I used to hesitate and let it pass by. But when he asked me that day, I didn’t know why but I told him that I had some terrible past and I had ended 5 years of long relationship because few things didn't work. I didn’t reveal many details but he understood I was in a very vulnerable state. He didn’t probe me much for additional information apart from whatever I shared with him...

We had grown close, even more, we never proposed to each other .. after some months passed by, we were still talking a lot on Facebook and met very rear in office. Later, I’ve got to know that he too had some painful past. His failure was not because the girl was bad or something, Girl’s family didn’t approve and got her married and then he tried to move on but that was quite difficult for him too.

Later we both knew that we liked each other and enjoyed each other’s company, never actually proposed, never told that 3 words “I love you” or “I miss you” or any other cheesy stuff but we both knew we wanted to be with each other for a lifetime.

Rest is all in history as they say... We struggled and fought with both of our families, had some tough conversations but finally ..after 6 long years of battle, we got married to each other..”

Saanvi is now a happily married wife... She still feels whether she is living in some dream. She is very thankful to God for giving her a happy life which she thought was never possible.

Though She got married to “Aarav” the one she had grown fond of beyond words, she still has so many unsaid feelings in her heart which she didn’t tell Aarav. Though Aarav knows her past with some details, the best part is he never brings up that, not even as a joke or anything. He is really a wonderful man and accepted Saanvi the way she is. And Saanvi also never worried about Aarav’s past and they both have now settled into a comfortable life and living happily...

These days many people love each other and want to do love marriages. It’s not fancy and it’s not wrong either. But then doing marriage with family’s consent makes it a big difference. Though it may take a lot of time to convince the families, It’s worth it. Eloping with your love and getting married will not take much time but there will definitely be a time when you would regret that decision. No matter how much you both love each other.. Love or arranged marriages need family support and that makes it wonderful. More than that, respecting each other and trusting them completely makes it all the more wonderful.

Though it’s difficult, to be honest in any relationship, it’s important that we always keep trying to be honest. One needs to invest time in a successful relationship. One may be busy with their career, but that cannot be a reason for not giving time to your spouse. Time, love, trying to be honest, caring, respecting and understanding each other, these are the very key factors for any successful relationship. Last but not the last, invest some money too ..:P, love is not about money, but small gifts would make a little difference because you gave them out of your love...

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