Never going back there again

Not going back there again...ever

I am an easy-going person. I try to see the best in everyone and I am big on forgiveness but when I am done with you, I am done, there is no going back, ever!

I will give you the shirt off my back, I will be your friend through thick and thin. If I am in love with you, I will be your biggest cheerleader, you will never have to think about if I have your back, trust me I do!

But if you break my trust, if you purposely hurt me, it's over, done, finished. I am a one and done girl, just like how I feel about tattoos, for me one and done, I don't need to feel that pain again. I made sure I got one that expresses all I feel in one tattoo, done.

Yes, I will forgive you but sorry I don't need to learn the lesson again. I'm good, thanks. When I finally had the courage to leave my abusive marriage, that was it, there was no going back. Been there, done that and the results continued to be the same, so why stay? Hello! It only took me 24 years to finally get it.

When an ex-boyfriend cheated years ago, I threw him out in the street at 1 am on Christmas eve. Oh yes, I was done, Christmas eve or not, sorry. Just like when I found out that Mr Con Artist was leading a double life. I threw him to the curb at 2 am (Wait...there's a pattern here..don't piss me off in the middle of the night if you need a place to sleep)

For me it's over, done, no explanations, no, I'm sorry, no baby let me explain, just done. I don't need a repeat performance, I got it loud and clear the first time.

I don't understand people out there who let their "others" hit them, and then make excuses for their behaviour. After the second, third time, and fourth time, they are still there, why? Do you really expect a different result? He's cheated on you a dozen times, do you really think if he does it 13 times, that will be enough for him, and that he will stop there? Come on, be real!

Is a no-good man better than no man? Are you so afraid of being alone that you will put up with anything? He's lied about his past, his finances, and his exs'. You've caught him in more lies than you have fingers and toes, yet you believe the next thing he says out of his mouth, really? That Brooklyn Bridge is pretty cheap and I can get you a good deal on it. 

He's promised he would quit drinking, gambling, doing drugs, yet here he comes again broke and drunk and there you are cleaning up his puke and lying to the landlord yet again, why?? Why do you think this time will be different?

I am not saying that people don't make mistakes. Read my blog, I am far from perfect and have screwed up plenty of times but there has to be a line that if you cross it, it's over. I like myself way too much to be treated like that anymore. You should like yourself that much as well. Believe me, being alone is so much better than being with someone you can't trust or has hurt you over and over again, I swear to you, you will be okay.

Have some self-worth, know your value, know that you are a queen or king and by God, you will be treated like one or there is the door, don't let it hit you in the ass on the way out! Period! Learn your lesson, take it and move on. Be determined that you will not repeat that mistake twice. You will see it coming the next time, you will lay ground rules on how you will be treated and if you do not, then it's over and mean it!

So today my friends, a bit of advice I loved from Dr Phil. "You start a relationship the way you want to be treated" Stand up and know your worth and take nothing less. You will be amazed at how good that feels. You deserve it, you are worth it, you can do it! Stand up and don't look back, remember you can't drive your car looking at the rearview mirror. Don't go back there again, ever.