My Sweet MIL

Every girl dream of a husband who is her best friend, and her husband's siblings to be like her own. And if she is lucky enough, she might get all she wants.

But when it comes to in-laws, especially Mother-in-law, very few are lucky enough. No matter how hard you try, it's really difficult to please your 'sasuma' and make yourself the kind of bahu she has always wanted.

Even if it's an arranged marriage and you are chosen by her, she can still find many faults and make you feel worthless and herself the best.

But, in my case, it's a bit different. When my parents started preps for my marriage, rather than thinking about the groom, I was more worried about how my Mother-in-law would be (mindset already created by our films, families, and society).

What if I will not be able to adjust with her? Will she accept me, help me manage my home (which was only hers before my marriage) and so on...

But to all my surprise, I am blessed with a very good MIL (rather a mother). Her thinking is well beyond today's generation. She is very cool-minded. Though she is not very educated, she is very open-minded. She doesn't believe in the so-called 'rudiwadi mansikta'.

From day one, I was allowed to wear what comforts me. No restrictions on saris or suits only. Even after

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my engagement, I met her wearing jeans. I am a working woman; she has always allowed me to work and appreciated and encouraged all my big and small achievements.

Though she faced a lot when she was bahu, she made sure that neither I nor my devarani feels a bit today. It's a very open environment in the house.

I knew cooking in tits bits, and she is an expert. But rather than criticizing us, she has always helped and taught us very peacefully. She has a lot of patience and corrects us even if we make the same mistake repeatedly. She is always ready to share her cooking knowledge with everyone and is one of the favourites amongst our society members.

It has never been a MIL-DIL bond, rather it's more of a friendship bond where we learn lots of things from each other.

I have a toddler son, and even with him, she has a very strong bond. Being a working couple, I and my husband stay in a different place away from my in-laws. But my son has a very strong bond with his Dadi. She makes sure that he feels the warmth of his grandparents despite the distance.

She talks to him daily and she is her favourite dadima. He also loves her a lot. 

I am happy to have such a loving and caring MIL and would cherish our bond forever. Lots of love

Your DIL