Grateful For My Friends
Grateful For My Friends3 mins 185 3 mins 185
I always say that my friends are the family I chose for myself. Being an only child I had no one and I always wanted a big family. So as I got older I made lifelong friends that over time have become my family.
This weekend I was blessed to have 2 of my girlfriends fly in from all over the country to celebrate my birthday and this was not the first time that they have done this. I have known one of them since I was 12, our parents hung out together years ago. She stepped up and helped take care of my parents when I moved to Florida. I was at her wedding, the birth of our children, and everything in-between.
My other girlfriend, whom I met when I just started volunteering at Habitat for Humanity, had just moved to Florida, and right away we knew we were kindred spirits, and we became fast friends. Our kids were young and we would hang out every Saturday at the beach and continued to volunteer together for years. Our children are now grown but we have so many memories that we share throughout the years of our friendship.
I mixed in some of my other friends I met down here in the group and now they are all family. A mix of cultures, religions, and colors that never comes between us, just enriches our friendship. There is not a day that goes by that I don't give thanks to God for these women. They helped keep me sane through my abusive marriage, they were there with a shoulder to cry on, they were my rock and my sheroes. They helped me pack and moved me into my new life, they have been there through the good, the bad, and the really ugly and continue to be there for me all these years later.
Being able to have a girl's weekend together to catch up, reminisce, and make new memories is a gift that I treasure and I never take for granted.
They say if you have one good friend for years that you are blessed and I know having this many long-life friends that I am doubly blessed.
I also feel that in order to have these kinds of friendships it must be a give and take. You must put into it, as much into it as you get from it. You must never take your friendship for granted, you must be able to apologize and forgive because we are all humans and we all screw up.
You must also know what friendships you have outgrown, that is no longer good for you. People who will never change or do not have your best interests in mind. I know how much that hurts but trust and believe it will be the best for you, in the long run, to close that door and walk away.
So today my friends, remember if you are lucky enough to have lifelong friends, keep that friendship alive. You need to call, FaceTime, visit, stay in touch because if you're like me, this is way more than friendships, these are my family and there is not a day that I am not grateful for them.